According to Oxford dictionary Love is defined as an intense feeling of deep affection. So, it is a feeling as per our common understanding. Once, a friend said that Love is a decision, so it might be a thought that creates the feeling and the feeling becomes act.
It is written that God is love. Yet, can we touch God, can we see Him, can we feel Him, can we describe Him?
“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
A famous verse! It is a verse that you will keep reading in my articles for the next few weeks as it is the guideline of what love is, in the sense of its behavioural character. The scripture does not explain if it is a feeling or a thought or I don’t know what. It just gets to the point establishing that Love does exist and presenting the true definition of love.
One of the things that Love IS NOT…is PRIDE!
Pride has two sides…I am not talking about feeling proud for a good achievement or for our friends or kids. I am talking about the specific pride that the Lord hates. Allow me …a bit more definitions out for Oxford Dictionary…
Pride: An excessively high opinion of oneself; conceit
Arrogance: offensive display of superiority or self-importance; overbearing pride; haughtiness
“The fear of the LORD [is] to hate evil; Pride and arrogance and the evil way And the perverse mouth I hate.”
I believe that the Lord expresses clearly His feelings about Pride and Arrogance. Some of the reasons are found in the following scriptures:
“When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble [is] wisdom.”
“By pride comes nothing but strife, But with the well-advised [is] wisdom.”
Pride[goes] before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall.
How “arrogant pride” applies? I believe that it is that high opinion of our self or of our behaviour or of our deeds that makes us arrogant and harmful towards others …including our self.
Why harmful? For instance, let’s imagine that there is a conversation between two people and they disagree. How those people could creatively communicate if one of them – or even worse both – are so overly confident that there is no space for productive dialogue? At the end, no one learns something new, strife, destruction and shame might follow. Additionally, bitter feelings might take place damaging the relationship and the future.
The above is a probably mild case. What when comes to serious conflicts such as spouses problems that could conclude to a divorce; what about political conflicts that create imbalance in the nation followed by stress in the society and culture; how problems could be solved when pride has the upper hand?
In Proverbs 11v2 the opposite of pride is humility. This is how Love shall be, shall behave: instead of pride, humility!
Pride is not only harmful for any kind of relationship, it is not only destruction to others – humans or nations – but it is destructive to our own self. Everything, soon or later, will reflect on our personality, spirituality, deeds, harvest and mostly upon our relationship with our Lord. He hates pride, He hates our arrogance. How our personal relationship with Him is to be built?
If we are arrogant with others, I am convinced, we will be arrogant with God! When we are proud, soon or later, our heart is deceived. It is beautifully explained in the Book of Obadiah especially when it is told: “who will bring me down to the ground?”
Specially, as Christians, we can be extremely arrogant as we carry the Word of God and we give no chance to anyone else to express themselves and take a chance to truly understand who God is and what our faith represents and says. We let God down.
We are in the world but we are not of the world. We live a life Christ like, a life that reflects humility in our words and deeds.
There are times that we are for sure right, still we need to retreat for allowing balance and serenity within the relationship than trying to prove our point. It takes guts to do so! Love is to humble one self even to the point of being mocked just because we know that the Lord hates pride!
Certainly, Love is not pride!
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